The other day I was asked by a guy whether I was a dominant woman, because I “looked” like one. I told a friend, and after taking note of what I was wearing said, “It’s a lace top and a mini[skirt]”.
So that got me thinking – how do we perceive someone to be “dominant”?
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This is a photo that I took in on of the skyboxes over at the Manor Suites. They have a nice dungeon scene, and I decided to sit in this lovely chair and treat myself to a few puffs on a pipe as I pondered on my question.
Is it their confidence? How they look? Words that they use? How their words affect others? Their physical stance and attributes?
Some people may say that how I am dressed in my photo would definitely make me look like I am dominant. Dressed in black, laced thigh high boots, hair pulled up and out of my face, and the look on my face could give off those signs. Others may see what I am wearing as an invitation to exert control over me because I am a woman that is showing skin, or simply because they perceive me to be a challenge.
On the other hand, if I were perceived as being submissive, could that give me an advantage? If you know how someone will act because of their assumptions, could you not manipulate the situation to be in your favor? If that is the case, could someone who represents him or herself to be submissive actually be dominant in certain situations?