When giving constructive feedback, pretty much everyone has heard of the “sandwich” method. You say something nice about the person, followed by the “meat” of the issue that you have with them, and end things on a positive note. Over the years, I have noticed that people generally don’t know how to do this method correctly. They give some random compliment, followed by berating them about the issue, and sometimes do not even give the last part. It can leave the person who is getting the feedback with mixed feelings at the least, and personally attacked at worst. I was reading this post about another way to give feedback called the “velvet hammer“.
I would like to share with you all something that happened recently in one of the groups I am in. A moderator shared an Amber alert for a missing child in New York with the rest of the group via group notices. Now, was it the best place to share (was not a content creator group, but special interests group)? Probably not. But the comments that took place after that made me wonder why some people felt justified to be condescending and mean. I even wrote in the group, “Which is easier to do – ignore something that doesn’t pertain to you, or make a bunch of comments complaining about it?” I reached out to the person who was practically getting attacked, but I had to step away before I received a response.
By the time that I got back, he had told me (and the group chat) that he would be leaving, and he was pulling sponsorship of his store from all of the group’s activities. “and your reactions have made me decide im done forever with ****, no more sponsoring events, no more parties, and no more ***** discount. Im done trying to help people in rl or sl”. Scenarios like this one is why I have in my inworld profile, “Do you want to be right, or do what’s right? Be the change you would like to see in the world.” There was absolutely no reason why the group conversation had to go the way it did, except that people thought they were doing the right thing by berating the person for putting the information in the group.
A new friend
Last month, Virtual Diva celebrated 8 years of being The Face of Fashion in SL. To celebrate, angels Kristan held a big sale at her store. The sale is over now, but there are a ton of group gifts on the wall…and the group is free to join! I have on the Soleil Crow suit in this photo:
I found this photo prop from Pseudo called “Hampton Balcony”. July is the time of month where many people start to go on vacation. Where are you going this year? As for me, I don’t have plans to go anywhere as of yet. But hey, things can change. I hope you all have had a great June…if not, then make next month a great month! See you then 🙂