Finding that constant amidst the chaos – ways to get back centered

There seems to be something in the air lately. I have seen a lot of bickering among friends – the most recent on social media. And as I talk to the parties involved, and seeing how stressed out the parties are, one word goes through my mind. Why?

I have had my own share of issues, and the feelings that ensued I have not felt in a while, since my RPG Mafia days. In those days, I learned how to work under high pressure situations, because literally things that you said or did could and would result in the end of your game character. At the same time, when I used to read back on old logs and such, I realized how high-strung I was (for me, anyway). I felt like I had to walk on eggshells with some people, because they were a bunch of drama-filled people who were miserable or had no lives outside of the game. The last major interaction I had with one of them was when she second-guessed my RL education…that it “didn’t make sense” to have the degrees that I had. And I was always on the defensive – outside my circle of friends, I always had to watch what I said or else someone would get offended and that could set someone or something off. That and more was eventually why i left that community.

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Ghee Girls Unite!

Hey guys – how is November treating you so far? Today is so cold – it was like 20 F today whereas yesterday it was in the 50’s? Madness.

Today I did another Ghee collaboration with my friend and one of the Ghee models, Aorist. I always say I should do more collaborations but they can be tricky to arrange. The last post I did back in 2015 was with Amity.

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Shoetopia 2017 is here!

Shoetopia is back, and it’s raining shoes! Shoetopia will open at 12 pm March 25th , and will end on April 15th. With over 50 designers participating, this will be an event that you don’t want to miss!

If you are s group member of Shoetopia’s sponsors (Blueberry, Breathe, CandyDoll, Empire, N-Core, and Reign), then you probably have already stopped by Shoetopia. Members of these groups were allowed to access Shoetopia 24 hours before the event opened.

There have been several videos floating around that shows what shoppers will find on Saturday. I watched videos from Alicia Chenaux, Kitty Otoole, and Strawberry Singh.  They all give you a pretty good idea of what the build looks like, and how the sections are set up for each store brand.

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New Profile Pic!

Hey guys! I am sure that some of you have noticed that I switched over to wearing a mesh head around the end of last year. After Bento came out, I felt awkward not wearing a mesh head when everyone around me were happy with the new Bento heads and seemed to adapt fairly easily to it. Even though I wasn’t a huge fan, I started wearing my Kori head from Catwa just so I could start getting used to things. You can see those photos towards the end of the year…one day I just went, “Eff it!” and started wearing my head.

After a good friend gifted me the Catya bento head from Catwa in January, I used the shape that I was working on for the past month to help finalize my shape. I do not like the fact that some face pixels are missing in the demo. It’s hard to get an accurate feel of the head unless you make the plunge and buy the head. Some people may sneeze at ~$20 USD, but I am not one of them. I do plan on getting a Lelutka head later this year, because I liked that one as well.

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New group gift from Ghee!

Hey guys! I wanted to show off this new dress from Ghee while I was on my visit to Ashemi. The sim is set up as an urban city. I found some sparklers while walking around, and decided to have a bit of fun twirling them. Now, if I saw a dragon hanging around, it would almost make me feel like I was celebrating the New Year...Chinese New Year that is…

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Seven SL Facts About Me


I love nails!

You know, if you think about something enough, it has a tendency to manifest itself one way or another. For a while now, I have been thinking on how to express more thoughts on my blog instead of just putting up photos of my latest purchases and stylings.  Then Strawberry Singh came  up with a fun meme about sharing some facts about yourself in Second Life. So, let’s start with..

SL Fact # 1: I don’t like being bored in SL, so I will always find something to do. On the rare occasion that I don’t have anything to do, I get a lot of “Omg! YOU’RE bored?” and “No way!” comments.

On the flip side, I get irritated when people ask me whether or not I’m busy (it’s become a 4-lettered word for me), because I feel they equate that to me not having time to spend with them when I say I’m doing xyz. Depending on what I’m doing, I can easily put it aside and do something else. But if I feel like I’m being sized up based on the fact that I actually have something to do, I can get defensive. There was a time where I went from a fast-pace SL lifestyle to having nothing to do at all. The abrupt change took its toll when I didn’t have anything to do or planned, and no one would message me first because they all assumed I was busy. It was a very lonely time in SL for me 😦

SL Fact # 1.5: Especially because of that experience mentioned previously, I have no problems messaging my friends to see how they are and what they are up to in SL.

SL Fact #2:  I need a place to call my own in SL.  I tend to like beachfront properties ^^ I was three weeks old when I had my first residence at Noobia, and they are still around after taking a year off. The brief periods where I did not have (or felt like I had) a place to call my own made me unsettled and restless. I actually got a bit depressed at the end of last year before I decided to change my living situation. Never gave it a second thought after that 🙂


Relaxing outside with a glass of wine

SL Fact #3:  I love jewelry so much that I’m in 4 different groups inworld for it.

SL Fact #4 : I love driving vehicles – jet skis and cars are my favorites. Right now I am looking at the Felgo cars. But I need one that will hold passengers…it’s not fun to tell your friends, “Sorry – not enough room for you 😛 ” It wouldn’t be so bad if it could hold like 3-4 people + driver, but just one passenger? That’s just mean…

SL Fact #5 : I feel odd when I don’t have on nails or some sort of stiletto heels.

SL Fact #6 : I love prim food and drinks ^^ especially food that gives out items that you can eat. My favorite is my bottle of Fremont wine…for a long time I would sit out on the patio and relax with glasses of wine as I did other things (either in world or on the internet). I remember my old boss invited me for breakfast at her place, and it was fun talking and relaxing over a nice meal.


Adjusting my mirrors while hoping I don’t get blindsided by a wayward driver

SL Fact #7  : I have a tendency to go randomly afk, and I get in trouble at times with people who are sensitive to time gaps in conversation. I never got why people are so upset with this. Personally, I do not know what is on your side of the screen. So as long as we aren’t in a business meeting or something, I don’t sweat it if you get back to me when you come back. One of my friends has a great profile pick on this:

RL & AFK Happens

As much as I would love to be readily available to respond to your Im sometimes it may not be possible.  RL is crazy and unpredictable so I may not have the chance to set my busy/away status or even give you a brb.  So if I do not respond immediately please don’t take offense, I am not ignoring you.  Rl has just decided to interrupt and RL always comes first.  If this is unacceptable to you, you know where the remove button is on your friends list.

Did you make it this far? Yay! I added pictures so it wouldn’t seem too long…plus since I haven’t blogged in a bit I wanted to make it up to you guys 🙂 That’s it from me though…see you soon!

Styling Credits

Photo 1:

Top: DRIFT Morning Tank [MESH] -Dirty
Shorts: VITAMEN BaseBall Boxer 2011-Charcoal
Socks: Indyra Originals: i(heart)Unity over-the-knee gym socks: White
Hair: ::Exile:: Say What You Want:Dirty
Skin: Glam Affair – Amberly – Jamaica 06

Eyeshadow: [mock]Party all night/Indifference Khaki
Lipstick: [mock]Hypershine Lipcolor – Chestnut
Lashes: [MC] Cyborg Thick Set #2 Lashes Upper and Lower
Nails: Candy Nail #FP006 Clear Glitter French Pink

Rug: Old Candy Nail group gift

Photo 2

Top: PARADISIS Sweater dress : complete cream
Leggings: coldLogic leggings – chea.taupe

Photo 3

Hair + Shrug: ^;^CaTwA^;^ Ladymana Roots/Honey
Jacket: DIRAM -La veste
Top: MichaMi: Washed Out Tank in Gray
Jeans: Maitreya Zipper-Skinny Jeans * Dirty
Skin: al vulo– Lyala* Mystic dark brow sunkissed
Shades: [Armidi Gisaci] Fi Umo Sunglasses – Black Turtoise / Black Lens
Nails: [Bamboo] Nails – Natural French

[mock]Lip Tattoo- Cheetah

Ring: Donna Flora: ANEMONE ring
Necklace: FINESMITH Tyra necklace- Onix

Another Day in the City

classy_009Finishing someone’s chalk drawing

Hey guys!  I’m back in New York City SL, and today I think I will explore the residential area. There are some places for rent…perhaps one of you would like to live in the city? I have a few things that I want to talk about in this post that I’m excited about.

First things first – I finally got the Lolas mesh breasts that everyone is talking about now as a belated gift. I absolutely love them ,and no, I won’t be showing any nudes photos – the fashion feeds are filled with them, so go look there 😛 I am not sure how they grew to be so popular. I think it’s because mesh = new and exciting, and people started requesting a number of designers to make the appliers to go with the breasts.  With that being said, having these breasts doesn’t automatically mean slutty. People do have naturally larger-than-average breasts in real life, and to me it’s like saying they are sluts because they don’t have a size A cup.

One thing I wanted to do was to find cheap/free clothing to see how my new breasts would look in them.


Bewbapalooza is a sales event that caters to those who have enhanced breasts, namely the Lolas mesh Tango breasts. Pretty Liar has a cute 1L top that I snagged and tried on. Actually, most of the stores participating in the event have a free/cheap/group gift, so if you want to practice applying the clothing layers to your breasts and adjusting, this would be the place to do it. Also, the Hello Titty (lol…I can’t even think that without laughing) hunt is going on now. I did get a dress that I will blog in another post…and after looking at the website I think I will pick up a few more items as well.


Yes, the mesh breasts have seams where your skin starts and the breasts end. But I believe when you get the skins that have the appliers for them, you can minimize them. Also, the bigger you go, you have to pull out the breasts some to make it look right. Likewise, the smaller you go, you can pull the breasts into your chest a bit. For the first few days I felt that my breasts were too high up, so I lowered them a bit to make it look better. All in all, I find the Lolas Tango breasts to be relatively easy to use, and worth the price if it’s in your budget and can see yourself wearing them on at least a semi-regular basis.


The next thing I want to show you is the Ladymana hair from CaTwA. This has got to be the GREATEST hair ever…it comes with its own hoodie! Do you know how much I have wanted to wear a hoodie in SL where I don’t have to make the hoodie super big to fit over my hair? And it got me to wear a pink color…something that I don’t do often. The hoodie hair has a standard HUD with 9 basic colors, the lightest color being a lighter version of the pink that I am wearing. For an additional 250L, you can get the pro HUD that has 40+ colors, plus you can have more than one color (at least that’s what the HUD looks like to me when I look at the standard one…it shows you what you can get with the pro).

Until next time guys! ❤

Styling Credits

Lolas ::: Tango ::: Mesh Breasts
Skin: al vulo– Lyala* Mystic  sunkissed (old TDR Fusion item)
Hair: ^;^CaTwA^;^ Ladymana Roots /Honey
Shirt: [PL] Advantage Tee
Jeans: Maitreya Flare Jeans (for heels)  #5
Hot pants: Mimikri – Hot pants / On Stage pink (old item; not sure if they still have it)
Shoes: N-core EMPORIUM “Garnet”
Nails: [Bamboo] Nails -Natural French
Clutch: ::HH:: Hucci Knuckle Clutch – Pink Lace

[mock]May LipColor  [nightshade]
[mock] Miss Vanity Eyeshadow with lashes [Olivine]
 Al Vulo! Mesh Lashes

Chop Zuey – Summer Solstice Ring
Artistry by E – Bracelet 1 (old womenstuff hunt gift)

Second outfit:

Shorts: MIEL FIT SHORTS – natural
Sneakers: ::Duh!:: (W) Sneaker Boots Black Out
Socks:  Indyra Originals – i(heart)Unity over-the-knee gym socks: Black
Lollipop: n/a

Poses: Manifeste, Corpus, DARE (n/a)